Queer Identity & Deconstruction
For those untangling who they are from who they were told to be.
There's a particular kind of grief that comes with leaving — a faith, a community, a version of yourself you built because it was the only option available. It doesn't always feel like grief at first. Sometimes it feels like relief, or anger, or just a strange untethered feeling you can't quite name. And it can be hard to explain to people who haven't lived it, who don't understand why leaving something harmful can still break your heart.
This is a space for queer folks, for those walking through faith deconstruction and religious trauma, and for those sitting at the intersection of both. You don't have to know what you believe, who you are, or where you're headed. You just have to show up.
What We Might Explore Together
Some of what people bring into this work: coming out — to yourself, to others, and often again and again across a lifetime. The grief of leaving a faith community or a future that was mapped out before you had any say in it. The slow work of untangling shame that was handed to you before you could question it. Building chosen family and figuring out what belonging looks like now. Sitting with a self that's still becoming.
Therapy at Waystone
I'm not a neutral party when it comes to this work. I've done my own leaving, my own untangling, and I bring that into the room. Sessions are unhurried and affirming. We'll pay attention to the grief and the anger and the relief and whatever else shows up. All of it is welcome, and none of it needs to be tidied up before you walk in.
Whenever you're ready.